Don’t be Afraid to Say What You Mean and Mean What you Say!

Why are women so afraid to be upfront and direct when it comes to saying what they want out of their relationship?

Women (and often times men) are frequently so afraid to rock the boat and muddle the calm waters that they choose to brush their issues under the rug at the expense of their intimacy. You see, when you make a choice to “stuff it” you are unconsciously putting up a barrier between you and your mate and  building resentment at the same time. Many times our spouses don’t even know their is a problem and it is unfair to have negative feelings about a situation, give him the cold shoulder and play the ol’ game of he should’ve known better–all that without saying one single word to him!  That behavior is mean and unfair. Many times we have written the script ahead of time about how the interaction will play out if you “call” him out on his behavior. This script isn’t validated unless you have tried to be successful at communicating effectively. What do you have to lose?

Don’t ignore what your mind and body are telling you…What is the worst thing that could happen if you actually say what you mean?  How would it feel to sit down, be vulnerable and communicate about how things are going for you? This is your chance to “Say what you mean and mean what you Say!” Open up that door to communication. Don’t  ignore, resent and “pretend” that life is hunky dory if it isn’t. Take that big heavy weight off of your shoulders and be REAL. The only person who ultimately has control of your life is YOU! Reach out of your comfort zone today and take a step towards having a more intimate relationship with your partner-GO FOR IT!