Tweet Let’s consider your belief that it would be terrible if someone disapproved of you. Why does disapproval pose such a threat? Perhaps your reasoning goes like this: “If one person disapproves of me, it means that everyone would disapprove of me. It would mean there was something wrong with me.” If these thoughts apply […]

Tweet Why do so many of us postpone our happiness? It’s not that we consciously set out to do so, but that we keep convincing ourselves, “Someday I’ll be happy.” We tell ourselves we’ll be happy when our bills are paid, when we got our of school, get our first job, a promotion. We convince […]

Tweet I recently read an article on blaming others by Richard Carlson, PH.D. that I’d like to share with you. The topic really resonated with me because so many of us are in the habit of blaming others for our own unhappiness. Okay…Here’s the deal…Only you can your control your own unhappiness or happiness-it’s a […]

Tweet Why are women so afraid to be upfront and direct when it comes to saying what they want out of their relationship? Women (and often times men) are frequently so afraid to rock the boat and muddle the calm waters that they choose to brush their issues under the rug at the expense of […]

Tweet If you think of a garden and equate it to your relationship you will see many similarities. A beautiful garden starts out with fresh soil and it appears to be tidy, orderly and isn’t muddled up with a lot of vines. This is an exciting time! You have an empty patch of loam and […]